Does Common Respect in Dating Still Exist?

Hello World,

Jeremy, where are you? I swear I was in love with him when he was on Making The Band. I just had to post this picture! Doesn't he have a pretty smile? A man that can sing and looks good (melting in chair).

OK, back to or regularly scheduled program!

Let me ask you a question? Does common respect and honesty in dating still exist? I ask this because since being here in Atlanta I have noticed a lot of shady dealings and it just seems like people have just lost common respect for each other. Let me give you an example of what I mean. I have coined the term "The Atlanta Drop Off". This is when you met someone and you all are vibeing. You exchange numbers and have a real good conversation. You may talk to them the next day or later and decide to hook up and go see a movie. You all hook up and hang out, go to a movie and dinner. You connect with the person. You go back to your place or their place and chill. You all may kiss or hug. Nothing to hot and steamy. The other person wants to have sex. But because your mother raised you with morals and values you are like no lets wait or use some other reason to get out of it because you know it's just to soon for all that. Especially if you can see yourself really wanting to get to know the person better. Well, you leave after having a good evening. Then here is where the drop off comes. "YOU NEVER HEAR FROM THEM AGAIN"! It's like because you didn't want to have sex on the first date they are off you! What kind of SH** is that? It has happen to me more than a couple of times here and I had to question myself "is it me"? But this guy who did me like that broke it down to me like this. He stated that most people here in Atlanta aren't interested in relationship or getting to know a person. It's all about the physical and sexual aspect of it. The mentality of let me do you and move on to the next. Because sex is so plentifully here because so many people think on that level. I understand that and can respect that because that is your right and choice.

But what happened to being respectful of the other person feelings and just express that? What happened to the common courtesy of returning a phone call to express that? What happen to treat people the way you want to be treated? My point is this, there use to be a time when you met someone and if you were interested or not you expressed it. To me that is just having common respect and letting someone know where they stand with you or could stand with you. Give me the option to say "well he doesn't want to pursue a relationship but he wants to have sex, do I want that?" Now don't get me wrong, I am no angel and have had my share of flings! But give me the chance to decide if that is what I want to do or not! Feel me!

I think people need to be upfront about there needs, wants, and expectations with people they meet. I feel that if it is just sex, express that. If you looking for a relationship, express that. If you just out here and what comes your way you will deal with it, express that. When you meet someone to expect anything more than conversation is pushing it. So why not respect the person for just being a human and express where you are in your life? Just be honest with yourself and others. Treat people the way you want to be treated.




These are just my thoughts and experiences so far here in Atlanta.